Paphos People

I am stuck between the wife and son. My boy who is 18 come off his motorbike last night. no fault of his own it was very frosty he slipped on some ice. He is ok just a bit sore that all. Ok his mum has said the bike got to go, as it to dangerous. Now he gone ranting and asking me to back him up. I told him i would have a word with the wife, but she not backing down, she has chained up the bike and got the keys to it. What should i do ?? do i put my foot down and demand the keys back. or should i back up my wife. He needs the bike for work, and he can not get bus to work as he don't Finnish until 1 am. I am not very good on things like this and i do not want to upset wife or son. What should i do Back son or Wife.

I do understand where she coming from, but life is life and things do happen. I know she still see them as her babies, but she must let them grow up. She wants him to push bike to work but it is 5 miles there. What would you do

Oh the dreaded situation, who to back

Personally, I'd stay out of it & let them sort it out between themselves, that way you don't have to fall out with either of them

Let it de-fuse ..
Tell him to sort something else for a day or so until it cools down.
mum is worried sick and ranting , but thats how they deal with it..
let her calm down ... then see how she is ..

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You shouldn't be in the middle of this really. It is between your son and his Mum. They have to sort it out as you will be in the dog house whoever you choose to support. He is legally an adult, and if it is his bike .....

I have every sympathy for all of you. Been there. Glad to be past that stage now.

Verity.

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Oh i can see it going to be one off those days He just stormed out to go to B&Q to get a hack saw to cut chain off, and he got a spare key to the bike . Anyone wants to swop places with me today please

No thanks Mark. Been there got the tee-shirt.Its so hard i would feel same as your wife.But worse if he cuts bike fighting her all the way then there more chance of comming off when upset.
Tricia

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Hi Mark
Has he passed his Bike test? Not just the basic scooter one. If not, maybe suggest to your son and wife that he does the test, or if he has passed his test an advanced test? He will be more confident and maybe the wife will be too.....

If not, I guess he is 18...he has to live his own life... just ensure he never gets on the bike without full leathers and a good helmet... it's all you can do.

Good luck.

Hi Tequila

Yes he passed and done the advance . I did say i would pay for him to have a weeks crash driving course, but he dose not want to get a car, he loves his bike to much.

The thing is he paid for the bike and insurance and test himself, so i do think he has a right to ride the bike , and he is 18. I just told the wife to sort it out, and leave me out of it. GREAT ADVICE PEOPLE. She going into 1 at me saying i should back her. My poor ears, now where did i put them ear plugs .

Just one more thing, when woman are mad why do they stomp around talking to themselfs If you could see and hear her

hi mark, theres some good flights to cyprus at the moment
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sorry but wife got to give keys back before son takes it. at 18 and got 1 up on his mom, he be going up the road on 1 wheel and 2 fingers up.

at 18 he can make his mind up, you just have to point them in the right way
say you and mom going to having a bike, he want a car then ,

andy

Up date for you all, ok son cut off chain, got spare keys out, and rode it to work. Wife went mad, running around like a headless chicken She was at work when all this happened I did say do not do it . So glad he do it though, otherwise i would have to pick him up at 1am

Anyway wife still mad, but i think she got over it a bit??? but things might change when they come face to face, as Aaron is advoiding her

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faster than you could cut a lock of a bike ...

I`ll get my coat ..

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phone son tell to get chocs or flowers and before mum says a word son give her a hug sorry i took the bike i know you love worry ect but i will take care always phone to let yoy know i am safe ect.
Tricia

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Tricia

Now that's an excellent idea! Is this the voice of experience from your kids? And did it work?

Jean

yes Jean everytime, i am a softie, funny it works better for the boys

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Oh Tricia

What a great idea. I already phoned him, and told him to get the flowers and choc, on his lunch break. hope it work's Thanks xx

Hope it works. If like me she will still have a moan and say she is right but it will take the edge of good luck.
Tricia

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The chocs and flowers may work as she will have had time to calm down a little by the time Aaron gets home. He might be wise to keep the bike out of site for tonight, though.

And he needs to do lots and lots of creeping.

No-one worries like a Mum worries. If kids can't understand it they just have to accept it.

Verity.

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